Purpose for the Pain

If there’s one thing I live by, it’s this: Purpose for the pain.

I didn’t choose the things that hurt me. I didn’t sign up for the trauma, the spirals, the long seasons of not recognizing myself. But I did choose what to do with it.

And I chose to turn it into something that helps people.

I Carry It Differently Now

For a long time, I carried my pain like it owned me. It was the loudest part of me — the one that dictated how I saw myself, what I believed I deserved, how small I let my life become.

But eventually, something shifted. Not overnight. Not cleanly. Just... slowly, I started to realize: If I could survive this, I could use it.

Not to become perfect. Not to erase what happened. But to become a safe space for someone else going through their own version of it.

Helping Others Gave It Meaning

That’s why I do this work. That’s why I became a coach. Because I know what it’s like to not be in crisis anymore, but still feel lost. I know what it’s like to ask, “Who am I now?”

I don’t believe pain is required for growth — but if we’ve already lived it, we deserve to make something out of it. We deserve to build meaning. To help others feel less alone. To build lives we actually want to live — because of what we’ve been through, not in spite of it.

This Is What I Live By

“Purpose for the pain” isn’t about romanticizing struggle. It’s about refusing to let it be wasted.

It’s about choosing to make space for healing — your own, and someone else’s. It’s the heart of my work, my coaching, and the way I move through the world now.

If you’re carrying pain and wondering what it’s all for — I want you to know: It doesn’t define you. But it can shape something powerful in you.

You don’t have to figure it all out right away. But you get to start turning toward your next chapter — when you’re ready.

And I’m here when you are.

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